I have been to Tabu many times and have had a fantastic time always. The crowd is friendly, fun, and flirty. The owners do an amazing job keeping the space fresh - sometimes I don't even recognize the club if I have been kept away for a few months in between visits! I have contacted the club with assorted issues over the years that I have been a member and always receive a reply right away - they are very nice and helpful. I have visited as part of a couple and also as a single female and always feel safe to let loose and have a great time. My recommendation is to try the club first on a more casual Friday night...and then do your second visit on a Blackout night or Anything Anywhere night! Honestly, in this lifestyle, you absolutely must go in with an open mind. I have read these reviews and giggled a bit at some of them. Are they expecting a club full of Barbies and Kens? Have you taken a look around you when you are out in public? The world doesn't work that way. Plus, Tabu has such a wonderful mix of people that are members...who would want to change it, anyway? The crowd is what makes it fun! Let go of your judgements and smile and talk to some people...and you will have a great time.